So many mothers:
mine with her great gardening gams
independent and active, just like always,
and I with my empty nest
working, writing, studying and more.
Busyness channeled in different directions,
but independent.
I always said, “I’m raising independent children,”
like my mom
I did my job.
Far away my children lead their independent lives
and only rarely feel the need to call home to update us
on the latest news.
Other mothers,
keep their chicks under their skirts,
want to be involved in every aspect of their lives,
with weekly dinners, frequent phone calls,
dependent interconnectiveness whatever their ages.
‘Not better,
not worse,
Just different’
like the exchange student mantra.
Family is the place you begin.
Family is where they have to take you in.
Family is many things
and there are many mothers.


