That explains everything, doesn’t it?
You’re afraid.
You’re so afraid of someone’s opinions
that you won’t risk anything.
You’re afraid you’re not perfect,
that you’ll make a mistake,
that someone will laugh at you.
All of this failure to complete your work
to present to the class,
to hand in an assignment
is all because you’re so concerned about image
you’ve turned yourself into a failure.
THAT was the image you wanted for yourself?
Really?
Life is a series of risks, of mistakes, of rough drafts,
of trying, and failing, and working and succeeding.
Are you so critical of others that you think everyone
is that critical of you?
In this time of social media,
confidence is your power.
My dog was happy and friendly. After he was attacked, he became fear aggressive.
He growled when other dogs came near, lunging at them.
He built a wall. He’d learned he had to defend himself.
It took a trainer with care and many friendly dogs to teach him to feel safe again.
I wonder what it will take,
for all of you?
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Interesting conversation before my class today as we discussed students who refuse to present to the class. A new teacher was asking what to do about this situation. My student over-heard the conversation and said that if there’s someone who doesn’t like you in the class, they’ll be judgmental. She said No one wants to be judged. So- It doesn’t matter it’s a life skill. It doesn’t matter that not being liked by the odd person is normal. I was told, “We’re afraid” and that was the end of it. It is unfair of teachers to expect them to try things that are difficult because they learn and grow that way, and they just want to stay as they are.
Shawn L. Bird 