Shawn L. Bird

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daddy October 8, 2010

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For Friesens and Bhatias who are grieving the loss of their fathers this week.

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I followed behind him on the beach.

He turned with a smile and opened his arms

for me to run into

and he swung me schrieking

high into the air,

catching my laughter on the way down.

I stood on his shoulders as he

launched me into the surf

squealing and splashing.

Then screaming and thrashing

as I gulped in salt water

and my feet desperately

saught security

until his hands reached down

and pulled me into the haven

of his embrace.

 

2nd time around October 7, 2010

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You said she was the only one
You promised she’d be yours forever
You crafted a dream together
You raised children and hopes

But then

you walked away
You found another you inside, a
you who needed a voice, a
you who needed a new life

So now

You say she is the only one
You say she’ll be yours forever
You’ll craft a dream together

but how can

you be believed when
you’ve been through this before?

 

cycles October 3, 2010

Filed under: Pondering — Shawn L. Bird @ 6:52 am

The first family wedding of the ‘next generation’ happened today. I was in the last generation, so one feels time passing as we celebrate the new couple and the beginning of their life together.

The family of each, the bride and the groom, was seeing off the first of their offspring.  There’s something profound in that.  I have noticed that families with several kids, get really good at weddings. 

Tomorrow we’re off to the salmon run: the largest run in 100 years apparently.   It’s a natural history excursion for the biologists in the family. Another cycle of life is enacted there. The fish come together and begin a new generation and then their lives end. They don’t get to watch their offspring carry on the journey of life. I suppose fish don’t care about such things, but Birds do.

Congratulations Philip and Violet. May you have many happy years together (because if you don’t, everyone is going to be really annoyed at me for introducing you to each other!)

 

feelin’ lucky? September 22, 2010

Filed under: Pondering,Rotary invocations — Shawn L. Bird @ 6:24 am
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“I feel that luck is preparation meeting opportunity.”

Oprah Winfrey

On my fridge I have a magnet that says, “Luck is believing you are lucky.”

I’ve heard people say, “You make your own luck” and I guess that’s a combination of Oprah’s comment and my magnet.  Make a plan, get started toward your goals and even if things don’t turn out quite as expected, at least you’re moving in the right direction to seize opportunities that come unexpectedly.  One course at college you ended up in to make up a credit might end up changing your life direction.  One vacation might change your career path.  Being open to surprises and taking advantage of them brings us both good luck and bad luck.  Our attitude determines which, not the circumstances.

Do you choose to be lucky?

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© Shawn Bird 2010.  Free use within Rotary.

 

letters September 19, 2010

Filed under: Friendship,Pondering — Shawn L. Bird @ 4:42 am

The Pear Tree offers us a meme and invites us to write this week on this image:

letters

I was a child who loved communicating, and I loved letters.  From the time I was about ten I had pen pals.  My first communications from Finland came when I was assigned a pen pal from the World Association of Girl Guides and Girl Scouts International Post Box.  I was matched with Kirsi who lived in Seinäjoki on the Western side of Finland.  After thirty years, Kirsi and I still write each other, and amusingly, our married names are the same (except hers is in Finnish, of course).  I have had opportunity to visit with her and her family twice.  Her sister was an exchange student in Canada for a year, and visited us a few times during her year.

I write most people by email these days, but I still  try to send a few snail mail letters every month.  There is something so wonderful about finding a personal note in your mail box, like a happy greeting among the boring bills!  I appreciate the extra effort required to write by hand, find a stamp, and make a trip to a mail box.  I know that other people do, too.  I like pulling out the calligraphy pens to make the envelope beautiful, knowing that on the letter’s journey it will bring a smile to many people.

I have trouble parting with my letters from old friends, though.  I have stacks of them around the house, in big envelopes, in bundles tied with string, left under piles of research.  Some special letters are numbered, set into plastic sleeves and stored in binders.  They become research, or at least that what I say to counter the accusations of obsession and anal retentive organizing!  Christmas cards are particularly hard, and I haven’t my mother’s knack of recycling them as gift tags in following years.

A letter is a little message from the past.  One Christmas, I was tidying up when I found a Christmas card under some papers on my sideboard.  I opened it up and had a little cry.  It was a lovely greeting from a childhood neighbour with whom I had visited daily as a girl, and with whom I remained in touch for the rest of my life.  She had passed on two years previously, and this card was like a little message from heaven from my dear Mrs. Hewlett.

Take some time to write a snail mail letter to someone today.  They’ll love it!

 

History September 18, 2010

Filed under: Friendship,Pondering — Shawn L. Bird @ 12:01 am
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When I was a little girl, I loved visiting family friends whom I called Aunt and Uncle. While I was raised as an only child, they had eight kids. I loved going there to ride horses, watch papers being burned in the pot belly stove, pick cherries in the orchard, play with all the cats, follow around the old dogs, sit on the huge front porch watching the lake twinkling below or being read to.  I loved bathing in the old claw-footed tub and playing dress up in the attic. I loved the morning schedule posted on the bathroom door!  (One bathroom, 10 people…)  There were two sons and six daughters, all older than me. For several years in the 70s their weddings were the highlight of my summer. Once when I was really little, I ate a wedding cake with walnuts and had an allergic reaction. We drove into town to our hotel to get my allergy medicine so my lips wouldn’t swallow my head and I was heart broken that they wouldn’t drive back to the wedding!

Auntie Sheila had a heart as big as the world and gave awesome hugs. Her warm presence made everyone feel at home. Uncle Fred had scary eyebrows and often freaked me out with his booming laugh. I couldn’t quite get the joke a lot of the time.  (It was probably better that way, come to think of it).

Time passes and Auntie Sheila and Uncle Fred are gone now. Today their six daughters came to visit my parents. It was so lovely to catch up a bit and rekindle a bit of the magic of a big family full of stories and memories. The eldest keeps everyone on track. The youngest talks the most (just like at my house!).  The banter and stories was so gloriously like it was when they were teen-agers.  One expected Auntie Sheila to come out of the kitchen to add to the story, and Uncle Fred to suggest the men retire to the den to leave the women to themselves.

It is a blessing to have old friends, but when the old friends have gone, it is a special gift for the children of old friends to visit and share a bit of respect and history.  I know my parents will be talking about this visit for years.

What a precious gift we give our elders when we share some time and memories with them.  It’s like giving back lost friends for a little while.

Thanks girls!

 

knocking on heaven’s door September 16, 2010

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I’m standing here on the door step
Do you see me?
My family has gathered to send me off
Hoping my departure is gentle on my final journey.
I’m knocking on the door, Lord
I answered your knock half a century ago
I know it was a blink of eye to you
but now I’m knocking on your door.
I’ve waited so long to sit at your feet
and ask a million questions.
I’ve saved up a few jokes I’m sure you’ll love.
I know you’ve got a sense of humour
because I’ve seen the giraffe and the platypus
I’m knocking.
It’s getting foggy here on the doorstep
and a little drafty.
The family is looking a little worn from the wait.
I don’t want them to hurt on my account.

Going would be so much easier than staying.
I’m knocking, Lord.
Please answer the door and bring me home.
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for Friesens
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wings and roots September 15, 2010

Filed under: Pondering — Shawn L. Bird @ 6:50 am
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The Pear Tree offers us a meme and invites us to write this week on this image:

family

A glowing word shining through the text of Pride and Prejudice reminds us that it is family that is the root of our pride and our prejudices.  We admire our parents and desire to emulate them, we delight in the successes of our children, we’re proud of their accomplishments.  If our world is small and our world view is limited, we may be passing down our narrow-minded perspectives to our children.  We don’t like fish, so we don’t feed our kids fish, and they don’t eat them so they don’t feed them to their kids.  We didn’t know people of colour, so we don’t associate with them, and are uncomfortable if our kids do.  Passing along prejudices generation through generation. 

Education is a dangerous thing.  It teaches new ways of seeing, different perspectives on life.  A strong family can indoctrinate or it can elucidate.  A weak child doesn’t question, but the strong child will want to know more than the parents can explain.  The saying tells us to give our children roots and wings.  A strong grounding in security and self-acceptance can empower the next generation to have faith in themselves and their aspirations.  Children’s roots are not to tether them to the Earth but to give them the strength and allows them to believe they can push off and fly.  Family is left looking into the sky after their kids.  Are they aghast, full of fearful prejudice of the new world, or are they proud, clapping in delight and celebrating the new world their children are discovering?

May the pride in our roots not prejudice the height our wings can reach.

 

mothers September 14, 2010

Filed under: Pondering — Shawn L. Bird @ 7:36 pm
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Today is my mom’s birthday and I’m thinking about mothers. It seems to me that people  fit into specific camps in their relationships with their mothers.  Some have so many issues with their mothers that they have to keep a good distance between them in order to keep the peace.  Others adore their mothers and practically live in each others’ pockets.  A third group comes in between maintaining an independent distance, available for assistance and regular contact but not emeshed.  I know people who exemplify each of these.

When you’re a child, your mother tends to seem like a goddess.  Her devotion to you is the security that tethers your world.  Of course, lots of kids find no security in their mothers due to the human frailties that so commonly destroy relationships: alcoholism, drug abuse, mental illness, etc.  Others have mothers who are so fearful that their children are smothered in their affection.  Others find a middle ground that allows children to explore the world while having a safe home base from which to evaluate their discoveries.   Will Smith and his family were on Oprah the other day and his wife was saying that there’s a reason that in ancient cultures the boys would be removed from the village by their fathers to undergo manhood trials.  Hovering mothers are a detriment to growth and independence.  It was a hard lesson for her.  I guess that is a lesson from the mother bears.  You don’t want to get between a Mama bear and her cub, and if she has twins or triplets you know she is going to be especially grumpy!  Still, eventually the Mama bear turns on those cubs and sends them off to live their own lives snarling and snapping if she needs to.  Another good lesson.

What were your mother’s dreams?  If she didn’t fulfill them, did she pass her dreams onto you?  Did you embrace her dreams or choose dreams of your own?

 

the goldfish principle September 10, 2010

Filed under: Pondering,Rotary invocations — Shawn L. Bird @ 12:12 am

I noticed this news article today, about a guy in France who has caught a koi (aka carp aka goldfish) as big as a dog.   While the photo in this case may or may not be authentic, it is a fact that koi grow to fit their surroundings.Fisherman Raphael Biagini reeled in what is believed to be a 30 pound koi carp in France. The photo is several months old, but it's buzzing right now. (Photo courtesy of Yahoo! Newsroom blog)      If you keep your goldfish in a bowl, it will remain an inch or two long forever.  If you put it in a pond it will grow to fit the pond.  There are apparently documented specimens over 90 lbs.  The one in the Yahoo story is given as 30 lbs, so you can imagine how gigantic a 90 lb carp would be!

How often do we grow to fit our situation?

If our circumstances require us to stretch and grow, do we remain bait for bigger fish, or do we fill our space?

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© Shawn Bird 2010.  Free use within Rotary.