Shawn L. Bird

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quotation- save yourself October 12, 2014

Filed under: Quotations,Reading — Shawn L. Bird @ 2:23 pm
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“You mustn’t wait for someone to rescue you.  A girl expecting rescue never learns to save herself.  Even with the means, she’ll find her courage wanting.  Don’t be like that…  You must find your courage, learn to rescue yourself, never rely on anyone else.”

~Kate Morton in The Forgotten Garden

What do you think of this advice?  Does it get in the way of accepting help from others?


18 Responses to “quotation- save yourself”

  1. georgetteann Says:

    Love this because I lived it; thanks for sharing! 🙂

  2. betternotbroken Says:

    I think it is fabulous advice, be wary of the saviors so many of them are false messiahs. Saving yourself does not mean you won’t find a man, saving yourself does not mean you will be alone, it simply means you know how to apply courage and be self-sufficient and survive to find company in a healthier set of people. Well, you asked.

  3. As a Single Woman I agree. There is no Prince Charming or White Knight riding in on white Horse to save you. When my Father was alive I knew I could rely on him but after he passed away I began to see that I was on my own. Over the years I’ve learned to stand on my own two feet. There have been times when I’ve hit rock bottom through sickness, surgery, chronic illness that even when you ask for help many times it won’t come. Back in Nov. 2008 I had a stroke; in Jan. 2010 I had Retina surgery. I had asked my cousins (both my parents are deceased and my brother is disabled) to help me. Well they abandoned me in both instances.

    When in need I’ve learned the best approach is How can I solve this problem by myself without asking others for help. Even during some very lean years when I had little to eat and didn’t know where my next meal was coming from I went hungry rather than ask for help or admit defeat. Over the years I’ve been fighting vision problems and other medical issues and learned to accept, adapt and take care of myself. I never want to be in a position where I have to rely on another person for assistance.

  4. narble Says:

    I think a person should always be accountable to themselves. That being said, it is also important to recognize when offered help is the right thing to accept. Like most choices, it is a balance.

  5. edenburnin Says:

    I think there is a fine line between all and nothing. I know for me I am trying very hard not to wait until someone else takes care of everything for me. I really am trying to push myself daily to move beyond what is comfortable to obtain what I want out of life. Although, I think too I also don’t readily accept help from people. There is a different between assistance and saving. We need to be able to accept the help without seeing it as being rescued. No one is trying to swim for us, they are just trying to make it easier to swim. Does that even make sense? Well it’s what came to mind lol 🙂

  6. It’s all about balance. I’m the type of person to where I hate asking for help, but that’s because I have a lot of insecurities that I’m trying to overcome. As a result, I tend to be overly independent and heavily self reliant. But we all need to be able to achieve a balance. There’s nothing wrong with being independent, and there’s nothing wrong with asking for help. We need to overcome the stigma that goes along with both of those concepts. Ideally, we should strive for interdependence, or where we all benefit from each other’s abilities. But the first step is to be courageous enough to stand on our own two feet, and to be wise enough to know when we need someone to pull us up off the ground.

  7. Catherine Johnson Says:

    I think it depends how big the task is. A bit of help and then trying it yourself is great if you ever need to don the same thing again by yourself.

  8. I agree entirely with the quote. And I have no trouble asking for help with things, big or small.

  9. Bookgirl Says:

    This is what we expect of our female protagonists so we should also of ourselves 🙂

  10. Women are enormously capable of self- preservation, and self-advancement. Saving oneself is a mark of honour.

  11. Bibishan Says:

    No it doesn’t. The quote actually helps you be independent. But a wise woman (person) will know her capability, what she can do and what she can’t. It actually helps you realize your inner-self and brings you to the acceptance of your being. So in the end it all comes down to your own “wisdom” as one might say. Push the limits but also accept that you are a human being.

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