In Fire and Hemlock Diana Wynn Jones says,
For you , the only way to behave well was to behave badly. For me, the only way to win was to lose. You weren’t to know me, and I wasn’t to remember you.
The paradox of this captured me, so I copied it down to ponder. The rest of this quote talks about letting go being the only real way to love someone.
What does it mean to you?
Shawn L. Bird 
If we hide behind our masks of illusion there is no chance to really know the ‘innermost’ part of who you are. Therefore it is impossible to truly love another until we release the scales of illusion hiding us from ourselves so that we can see the other and truly love them. Susan ❤
Very true
Ah, yes… the dichotomies of love and hate, a part of living passionately.
Dichotomies are everywhere in the ironic paradox of life!
Exactly.