In the entire history of our marriage, it was the only secret I kept from her, and eventually it became impossible to fix. With a secret like that, at some point the secret itself becomes irrelevant. The fact that you kept it does not.
Water for Elephants. Sara Gruen. p. 415
This is a valid point, don’t you think? Whether or not the thing you conceal is important in later years, it can become a “Why didn’t you tell me?” sort of thing. Mind you, I also know that shrug that says, “Well that’s no big deal!” and just accepts the fact that some people are nervous about sharing news that they think will be taken badly. Some people get all worried about things like that, and others shake it off. In the past. Water under the bridge. Who cares now about such things?
What do you think? When is keeping the secret bigger than the secret itself?