Shawn L. Bird

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growing up April 8, 2011

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Topic #89 When did you realize you were an adult? (If you haven’t yet, when do you think you will?)

When I was twelve, I felt very grown up, but by the time I graduated from high school, I’d figured out that I wasn’t.  I lived abroad for a year, and I thought I’d feel grown up about that, but although I felt more mature than a lot of teens I knew, I still didn’t feel grown up.  When I got married, and then had babies, I expected to feel grown up, but I didn’t.  When we bought our first house, I felt like I was doing all the grown up things, but I still didn’t feel grown up.  Now I have a career or two, the kids are grown and gone, and I still don’t feel grown up!

Perhaps because I have been so blessed to have avoided many of the tragedies that often strike us and steal our youthful effervescence.    Perhaps because I have a great husband who looks after all the ‘responsible’ stuff, I’m not burdened by them.  I am free to do the things that I enjoy: writing, dancing, volunteering, sewing, knitting, travelling, etc.  Being able to do those things makes me happy and carefree, rather than tired and grown up.

I have a friend who has a sign above her desk that says, “If you haven’t grown up by the time you’re 50, you don’t have to!”  I kind of like that philosophy.  I have a few years to go yet, but I am counting on the fact that I don’t ever have to grow up.

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How about you?  Do you feel grown up?

 

What do you think?